Thursday, October 28, 2010

Manas family photo shoot

 Eric's mother is having a Birthday soon and we thought it would be great to give her a nice shot of our family!   As you can see when you have an 80lb Lab it is not so easy!!!

Mabel REFUSING to look at the camera!


As you can see I am trying to make her - begging...please just one shot MABEL



Mabel apparently feels she is way to important to take pics with Mom and Dad!

FINALLY - a decent shot - Mabel must be licking her lips because there is a squirrel nearby she would like to eat!

I am happy that we were able to get ONE shot - not perfect - but this is us!  Hopefully this time next year we will be a family of FOUR!

Monday, October 25, 2010

A fingerprint in its narrow sense is an impression left by the friction ridges of a human finger


We have a date to get our FINAL (hopefully) biometrics....aka fingerprints done!  Tuesday, November 16th @ 8:00 am!!!  I was hoping it would be sooner but I realized everything happens for a reason.  There is one...or two...special little one(s) out there that are destined to be ours, so I can be patient!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Would you like to win a FREE Mission Trip to Ethiopia?????



Well, the inspirational woman behind My Crazy Adoption is offering just that!  Here is a breakdown of what you could win!

*Prize: Mission Trip to Ethiopia, February 17-26, 2011
*Prize value: $3100
*Number of winners: 1-2
*Number of Tee shirts to sell: 183 + 183
*Ending date of the giveaway: 10/28/10
*Where it can be won: My Crazy Adoption Blog
*To enter this giveaway, you can: purchase a tee shirt at My Crazy Adoption Store
TODAY ONLY you can enter FREE...yup I said FREE!!!!  You would normally have to buy a T-Shirt to enter but TODAY all you have to do is spread the word and get a free entry!  I really think you should still buy a shirt but just start spreading the word for your chance to win!!!

Thursday, October 14, 2010

It is official.......

WE ARE GLADNEY APPROVED! 

Our Wedding Day
Happy Thursday to all!!!!!

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Adoptions from Ethiopia rise, bucking global trend

We were forwarded this article from msnbc.com the other day and found it interesting enough to reproduce it hear in its entirety. It was nice to see our agency, Gladney, get some recognition as well.

The African country is sending record numbers of children to the U.S.

By DAVID CRARY
The Associated Press
updated 10/12/2010 3:31:43 PM ET

NEW YORK — As the overall number of international adoptions by Americans plummets, one country — Ethiopia — is emphatically bucking the trend, sending record numbers of children to the U.S. while winning praise for improving orphans' prospects at home.

It's a remarkable, little-publicized trend, unfolding in an impoverished African country with an estimated 5 million orphans and homeless children, on a continent that has been wary of international adoption.

Just six years ago, at the peak of international adoption, there were 284 Ethiopian children among the 22,990 foreign kids adopted by Americans. For the 2010 fiscal year, the State Department projects there will be about 2,500 adoptions from Ethiopia out of fewer than 11,000 overall — and Ethiopia is on the verge of overtaking China as the top source country.

The needs are enormous; many of Ethiopia's orphans live on the streets or in crowded institutions. There's constant wariness, as in many developing countries, that unscrupulous baby-sellers will infiltrate the adoption process.

However, a high-level U.S. delegation — led by Sen. Mary Landrieu, D-La., and Susan Jacobs, the State Department's special adviser on children's issues — came back impressed from a visit to Ethiopia last month in which they met President Girma Wolde-Giorgis.

"What's encouraging is they want to work with us, they want to do it right," Jacobs said in a telephone interview. "Other countries should look at what Ethiopia is trying to do."

The global adoption landscape has changed dramatically since 2004. China, Russia and South Korea have reduced the once large numbers of children made available to foreigners while trying to encourage domestic alternatives. There have been suspensions of adoptions from Guatemala, Vietnam and Nepal due to fraud and corruption.

In contrast, Ethiopia has emerged as a land of opportunity for U.S. adoption agencies and faith-based groups. Several have been very active there in the past few years, arranging adoptions for U.S. families while helping Ethiopian authorities and charitable groups find ways to place more orphans with local families.

Buckner International, a Dallas-based Christian ministry, has about three dozen Ethiopian children lined up for adoption by U.S. parents, but it's also engaged in numerous programs to help Ethiopia build a domestic foster care system.

In one village visited by Jacobs and Landrieu, Buckner has built a school and housing for teachers while beginning a slow assessment of the orphan population to determine which children can be cared for locally and which might benefit from U.S. adoption.

Randy Daniels, Buckner's vice president of international operations, said the children who do head to adoptive families in the United States generally seem to flourish.

"They're some of the warmest, most loving kids of any I've worked with in the world," he said. "It's amazing to how quickly they adjust to the families stateside, to the language, the culture."

Buckner's clients include David McDurham and his wife, Amy, of Mansfield, Texas, who adopted their daughter, Ella, from Ethiopia in 2008 and are preparing to pursue a second Ethiopian adoption. Unable to have a biological child, the McDurhams had been considering adopting from China. But that can now be a four-year process, and they became increasingly intrigued by Africa.

"They were just opening up the Ethiopia program," said McDurham, a Baptist minister. "We were thinking, where did the needs of children and our needs coincide?"

McDurham said Ella, who just turned 3, is thriving in their Dallas suburb. They've become popular customers at a local Ethiopian restaurant and have forged ties with several other families who adopted from Ethiopia.

"We want her to see other families like hers — to know other people who have that same story," McDurham said,

Other agencies active in Ethiopia — both with adoptions and developing local alternatives for orphans — include Bethany Christian Services and the Gladney Center for Adoption.

Gladney only registered with Ethiopian authorities in 2005 and since then has completed nearly 500 adoptions by U.S. families. J. Scott Brown, Gladney’s managing director of African programs, said the agency also is working with government-run orphanages in Ethiopia, trying to improve living conditions and develop job-training programs to benefit youths who won't move to homes abroad.

"There are still some bad players in Ethiopia who need to be removed," he said. "But if we can work closely with the government, this can be a leader for other countries to follow."

Some Ethiopian officials remain skeptical of international adoption, but Brown said he's seen doubters won over after visiting the United States to view firsthand how Ethiopian children are thriving in adoptive homes.

Landrieu, one of the leading adoption advocates in Congress, said Ethiopia deserves praise — compared with many developing countries — for recognizing that its orphans would be better off in a family environment such as foster care or an adoptive home rather than in an institution.

But resources are limited. She said there was only one judge assigned to process adoption cases and make sure that children are indeed legitimate candidates.

Heather Paul of SOS Villages-USA, which runs overseas programs supporting orphans and abandoned children, said it's critical that potential adoptions be closely scrutinized.

"Having better regulations protects American adoptive parents too," she said. "There's no worse heartbreak than finding a child had been sold away."

In contrast to Ethiopia, there's uncertainty and frustration over adoption developments in two other countries.

In Kyrgyzstan, the government suspended adoptions in 2008 because of suspected corruption, leaving more than 60 U.S. families with pending adoptions in limbo. Plans to resume the process have been disrupted by recent political upheaval, though Jacobs said she remains hopeful that a new adoption law could be passed whenever a newly elected parliament is able to convene.

Adoptions of abandoned children from Nepal have been suspended by the U.S. government until Nepalese authorities implement procedures to curtail corruption and mismanagement. Jacobs said 80 pending U.S. adoptions are under review by the State Department.

The suspension has been criticized by some U.S. adoption advocates.

"When you close a country, you end up causing more problems than you prevented," said Chuck Johnson, CEO of the National Council for Adoption. "What happens to the kids who aren't adopted in Nepal? Some will end up as prostitutes and slaves."

Copyright 2010 The Associated Press. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.



A few comments on the article itself:


We especially enjoyed having some of our own impressions endorsed, in that the article quotes an adoption agency employee as saying the Ethiopian children he places are some of the warmest, most loving kids of any in the world, and that they seem to adjust very quickly to their new language and culture. Despite our perhaps limited experiences we feel the exact same way.


As Ethiopia gets more publicity and becomes more popular for international adoptions it does become a greater worry that the opportunistic and unscrupulous actors come out ruining a good thing for everyone. It is encouraging though that U.S. officials have traveled there and came away feeling positive about Ethiopia’s commitment to doing things right, currently and into the future. As there are no guarantees there is always the worry that circumstances in Ethiopia will change and that we would not be able to adopt due to either a temporary or even permanent ban on these adoptions. This article eases those worries a bit.


And then on a more disturbing note, reading through the comments left at the end of the article (link to it to read if you like) only confirmed some of the things that strangers, and even people closer to us, have actually said. Specifically that it is somehow wrong to adopt an Ethiopian child where there are so many needy American children. Related to that we have had people say to us that because our child will be Ethiopian, we as parents are going to be totally unequipped to understand or deal with the issues that she will face due to the color of her skin (implying that it would be better to simply adopt a white child from this country).


While other commenters adequately argued against such ignorant views, people of course will have their own opinions no matter what they hear, or from whom they hear it. While it is at least helpful to be aware of the prejudices our family will face I am most taken aback by people’s willingness to share their opinions, unsolicited, with you. These prejudices, that American children should take precedence over foreign children, take an outrageously simplistic view of a sometimes complicated but always very personal issue. We have touched on our thought process a bit in coming to decide on Ethiopia and it would be utterly absurd to suggest(as many commenters to this article have) that it has anything to do with the “coolness” factor. We have struggled for years in pursuit of one simple goal—to have, raise and love a child of our own. After exploring all the options available to us we were never completely comfortable with the overall process, risks, and costs associated with domestic adoption. For us, again with just one goal in mind, our needs and the needs of these children seemed to come together perfectly. We didn’t look any further and, at the very least, this article makes us feel just a little bit better about our decision.

Friday, October 8, 2010

I600A is off

 For a brief understanding of the I600A form go here:

This is one of the final steps to complete.  This is sent off and we will receive a I-171H letter, we will then submit this letter to Gladney as well as KBS Dossier Services for authenticating.  The I-171H letter is the last little piece of information we need to finalized our Dossier.....then it will be onto the wait list!



Happy Friday to all!!





Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Calling all New Jersey Folks!

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When: Saturday October 9th 8am-2pm (Rain Date: 10/10)

Stop by to say HI and enjoy a baked goods and some lemonade from Jackson’s Lemonade Stand or come to find that special treasure!